When TRUST is broken

When trust is broken, it needs time and proof to regain. When someone loses trust, it is a difficult and painful experience to have to endure. Inevitably, the one whose trust has been broken, will lack interest in having any more time involved with the one who lost the trust. If one's mindset is determined on being correct all the time, never wrong or cannot comprehend how that trust had been compromised, then such a person has a problem admitting to mistakes, has a high ego, is not yet capable of progress or even to apologise. This kind of character is also usually proud and inconsistent in behaviour, acts and speech. The person who abuses trust must work hard to improve self, knowing that a wrong has been done, should quickly make ammends. In Islam, we are taught to be honest and trust worthy. We are encouraged to always tell the truth and be kind; we are taught to be kind especially to children. We have been encouraged to be friendly and humble, in these are rewards and a smile is charity. How can someone whom we trust, pretend for so long to be what they're not or that they change to the extent they take things for granted as eventually the truth always emerges, people never think they will be discovered until it's too late. Sometimes, they get warnings but because of egocentricness, they fail to heed and calamity strikes, trust is broken. They then wonder what happenned. It's never too late to change attitudes and thinking, to benefit oneself. It's never too late to learn better ways. The challenge is to come out of the comfort zone, and try. Giving one's best in everything done sincerely will create a sense of contentment and achievement. One cannot advice another unless one is doing that particular action. One must always be grateful that there is still time for reflection and make positive progressive change, without the alter ego directing falseness. Trust is an important factor, once broken, it will need alot of effort to regain. Imam Al Hadad reminds that once a person has been known to lie, this person should be avoided until they repent, prove themselves to have changed before anybody should trust them again. Facts back up truth, once a story of lies evolves , it develops and becomes a web of lies. When truth emerges, the person lies more to try and refute, when will they understand that it gets tiring having to deal with antagonistic negativity. Being antagonistic is bad enough, negative enough, but antagonistic negativity, is when every other phrase is an attack and blame, always trying to find the faults, rather than see the good. Always trying to make a hole rather than plug it. Always needing to be right, and with that comes their power, their need to wield it and they feel in control. When in actual fact, they have no control or power over anything because everything is weak based on fakeness , insincerity and lies. Character inconsistency develops because one is affected by moods or consent of others, as to how they would react or choose to be. Sad individuals and full of misery, their lives become dull and without meaning. If, as muslims we have taken hold strongly on the rope left from Heaven, inshaallah, the doors of repentance are still open, and Allah Subhana wa Ta'ala is Most Merciful, and His Mercy outweighs His wrath. Let us improve ourselves and purify ourselves from the sickness of nafs, as true muslims, let us surrender ourselves to our Rabb, and become humble servants on the path home. ~ lorrainenur@2013